Are you feeling lost? Have you felt blind-sighted? Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you tired of feeling the emotional fatigue? Are you just so confused facing the enormity of it all alone? Managing your feelings, your emotions, not know where to start with your separation and divorce journey? I have been where you are and I know can be so overwhelming, and you can often feel so alone and you don’t know where to start.

At the same time, you are also starting to think about all these life changing decisions that you are now facing; deciding to stay in the family home or not; thinking about how this will this affect your kids or where your kids are going to school. How will you work and manage single parenting? How will you survive financially?

Firstly, get informed, get educated on what is going to happen and the process. This will help you understand about divorce and the divorce process. Which will help you in making decisions that you are going to have to make.

You need to see a family lawyer, so you understand how the legal process works and what your situation is. Some family lawyers offer a free first session. Legal aid is another starting point, as is asking friends who have been through or if they know someone who has, who’d speak with you. When you see a family lawyer it is important to use the time wisely given the costs involved, so have all your questions prepared in advance. If you are unsure of these ask friends who have been through separation and divorce or engage a divorce coach who can help you with this.

It is about finding about how the business side of divorce works. How do you best 'share' time with the children? Who is going to pay for what? It does not mean you have to start the legal process now, but it means you will start to understand how your divorce may unfold and what is going to be required of you. 

Thirdly, start making notes on everything. And I mean everything. Yes, I founded an app where you can make notes in one place. But you can take notes anytime and anywhere, just start making them! I just made it easier for you to collate all in one place and then produce a report through a simple pressing of a button. (Divorce Source app is available in both google play and apple stores)

You may not think you need notes now, but it is likely your family lawyer is going to need notes on your marriage and then your separation journey, who has the children and when, who paid for what expenses, who takes the kids to their activities and how it the time with the children shared in the future.

Divorce is a journey, and it is a process, there is a business side to divorce and your feelings are going to change at various points also depending on how amicable you and your ex remain, but you have got this! You can do this! Many of us have walked the path before you and we came out the other side. You will too. xx